How to Better Bond With Your Foster Child

Adding a new member to your family can be an exciting yet difficult time. It take adjusting on everyone’s end, and some people open up quicker than others. No child is the same, and because of that there is no single solution. With that being said, there are steps you can take to get to know your child better and integrate them into your family. What are they? Keep reading to find out.


Family Outings

Often times, children can feel awkward in a new home. It is important to get them out of the house and discover where they like to hang out and what they enjoy doing. Family outings to places like parks, malls, and etc can give you a better idea to what their hobbies and passions are. Another added benefit is that children are likely to feel less anxious in familiar settings! This will help them relax and open up.

Family Game Night

Take the focus off of them! By doing active activities like playing board games, video games, or sports, children will be more focused on the competition. This will alleviate any anxiety and help shy children come out of their shell. Keep in mind, you don’t have to do this alone! Ask the child what they want to do. Do they prefer video games? Playing catch? You never know until you ask, so don’t be afraid.


P.S. if quizzes and puzzles are your child’s thing, consider taking a personality test together. It is often something people are curious about, and it will give both of you insight into key aspects of each other’s personality.

Family Meals

It may seem like a simple task, but eating meals together is so important for family bonding. It is an important time for your family to talk about their day, share any highlights, or discuss their troubles. Not only is this tradition not followed in many households, but many family meals are interrupted by screens or various kinds. Whether it be cell phones, television, or computers, be sure all technology is put away during this meal. It will force everyone around the dinner table, including you, to be present and enjoy the moment.

About The Author:

Christopher Stevens is a foster parent to 2 young girls: Katie and Laila. He loves being a father, and he wants to share his experience and tips with future foster parents as well. His piece of advice is, “It may be difficult in the beginning but, it will all be forth it in the end.”

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